Becoming Your Own Midlife Chief Soul Officer
8 Steps For Your Soulful Midlife Remix
Hi, good peeps! Get your golden sh*t shovels ready and start digging deep with me as we talk about finding soul satisfaction in midlife. I recently sat down with my very badass guest, the soul rebel herself… Shelley Paxton. We talked all about how to become the chief soul officer of our lives! We're going to find out how to liberate our souls and create the lives we don’t need a vacation from.
Midlife soul searching is a key part of the midlife remix. First, we need to recognize that we need a remix and then we need to figure out how to get there. We get to make up the rules and we get to break the rules. It’s our narrative to create. That’s the best part of midlife…it’s 100% your f*%king way!
Liberate Your Rebel Soul
Look deep into yourself to realize what it is going to take to make you truly happy. We have to start an inner revolution to reclaim who we are and reconnect with our souls. Everyone is going to have an opinion on what it is they think you should do. But sometimes, you have to tune back into yourself and tune out the peanut gallery.
Take a Soulbbatical
This is a term that Shelley came up with and it is all about reconnecting with your soul to see what you’re like outside of your career or “just” being a mom, a wife or partner. It's not about taking a break, leaving your job, or relinquishing mom duties for six months. It's about taking the time to find yourself, become fully aligned with who you are, and then create a life that supports that. We don’t have to have all of the answers. One big thing I’ve learned in midlife is that sitting in the unknown is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself.
Don’t Be So Obsessed With Labels…
and No We Aren’t Talking About Gucci
We’re talking about labels in life. We aren’t talking about professions or titles that society gives us. It’s not about being a wife, partner, or mom…it’s about being defined by the things you’re passionate about. In midlife, as your kids are getting older you have to redefine what your “inner” label is. Realizing that success is not about having the best job or being a Pinterest mom, but it’s the feeling of true fulfillment from the inside out and living with no regrets.
Become the Chief Soul Officer of Your Life
No one can do the work for you…you have to do it. The midlife self-reinvention fairies aren’t coming to save you and you can't f#%king buy it on Amazon. It's so hard…but so worth it. Take the first step to live your life authentically, reevaluate things, and try to find a purpose that makes you feel really good about yourself. We need to live life on our own terms and stay true to our own values. Midlife reinvention is 100% your responsibility.
Living in Seasons
Living life in seasons is so juicy because you get to do different things along the way. There is no linear approach. We all have seasons in our lives where we have different roles. In midlife, we tend to have the urge to start something new, but we just don’t know where to start. Figure out what season you are in and go with the flow. It’s recognizing and figuring out what small steps you can take to get to the point of saying…Hey, I love what I’m doing here.
No Permission Slip Needed
This is midlife…you don't have to ask for permission anymore from anyone. It’s time to do what makes you happy and what makes you feel like yourself. Not everyone's going to understand your midlife reinvention…and that's f#%king okay. It’s time to take your own bullsh*t by the horns and call yourself out.
Be Open to Being Vulnerable
Vulnerability is the most beautiful act of courage. It's important to find your peeps, so you have support on your midlife journey. Don't be afraid to ask for help…asking for help is a sign of strength! Midlife can be a chaotic and emotional time and the best way to get through it is to be open, honest, and lay your sh*t out on the table. If we’re not sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly, it can be hard to connect. Not everything in midlife is sunshine and rainbows peeps, but it's so worth it.
Get Yourself a Fuckit Fund
This is the best name ever. Shelley created a Fuckit Fund as a financial cushion. It was her way to support herself when things got tough. If you find something unfulfilling in your life…pull that ripcord and use your fuckit fund as a safety net. Use it as a way to figure things out.
Crown yourself with the title Chief Soul Officer. What this really means is that you're a badass who takes responsibility for the direction of your life and you live it authentically, courageously, and purposefully. It's time to be in alignment with your truth in your own midlife remix.